What is Mindfulness?

Embracing Meditation

Meditation is one of the best methods for healing.

Growing up if you would have told me I would be an advocate for yoga and meditation I would have laughed in your face. Two of my best friends used to love to meditate we’d go to a park by my friends house that had a beautiful little pond. They would sit with their legs crossed close their eyes and drift into their inner la la lands. First I’d fidget then I’d start singing in my head and within min I was up and throwing rocks in the pond.  Frankly I thought it was silly, but the joke was on me.  

Meditation is not for the “wo wo” tree huggin flower children of the world.

When you think of meditation if all that comes into your mind is a bunch of Buddhist monks on top of a mountain your not alone. However there are a many different types of meditation and “mindfulness” exercises as there are songs on your playlist. Here are a few of my favorites but I recommend you google and find the exercises that best fit your personality.

First thing is first. Always set an alarm if you are going to meditate. This way you can let yourself go and not have to keep interrupting yourself to check the time.

MUSIC

My absolute favorite type of meditation/mindfullness is “centering” myself through music. Don’t be scared if the phrase “finding your center” basically it just means find that spot in your mind where your body and soul are completely at rest and it’s like a cool breeze is running through your soul.

I turn the music up as loud and just rest myself into the music. Whether you just sit and embrace the song or let yourself dance as long as you are completely lost in the music and thinking of nothing else then guess what? You’re meditating.

If you find your mind wandering then focus on the melody or a particular instrument etc. Then just let yourself melt.

Empty Thoughts and “Post it’s”

My second favorite meditation is find a comfy place, someplace quiet, set your alarm and close your eyes. Relax

This is the hard part. Think of nothing.

Sounds impossible? Yeah I know. But every time a thought comes into your head imagine yourself writing that thought on a post it or piece of paper and then imagine putting it aside or the wind picking up the paper and have it dance away in the wind.

I know it sounds silly but I put the things I need to remember on post it’s and my negative thoughts on paper and pretend they blow away.

The more you do it the longer you will go without any thoughts. Then when your alarm rings you will be AMAZED at how wonderful and refreshed you will feel.

I recommend doing this before an important meeting or test if you can. You’ll perform so much better.

Ground Control to Major Tom (best way to manage pain)

Get comfy, set alarm, all that. The important part of this meditation is to relax and let your imagination take over. Whatever you imagine it’s right, each time you do it let yourself imagine more and more details. The first couple times you do this exercise you may want someone to read it to you.

Let’s begin.

Focus on specific parts of your body starting at your head, fingers or toes. Then focus on relaxing each part of the body. First your toes, then your feet, then your ankles then your calves etc. (if you are reading this to someone then specifically go through every part of the body)

If you don’t feel completely relaxed yet then imagine sand or water being poured into your body starting at your head or feet and is it fills up your body you feel the weight comfortably weighing you down.

When your relaxed imagine a staircase leading to a basement. Whatever you imagine, concrete stairs, wooden, brass whatever.

This staircase is leading to the part of your mind that controls every part of your body.

Imagine yourself walking down those stairs and with each step count down. 10, 9, 8…1

In front of you is a large door. Turn the handle and walk inside. This room is your bodies control room. Imagine all the levers, dials, and buttons. Each switch, lever and dial controls a different part of your body.

Where do you feel pain? Go to the dial, switch or button that controls that part of your body. Turn the lever you are now in control of that pain. Turn it down. Is your heart bothering you? Slow it down.

Let yourself spend time in your control room fiddle with your dials you are in control of your body.

Wait a few min.

When you’re done, go back to your door open it up and close it behind you. Now lock it. Only you are in charge of your body. Now walk back up the steps. Count every step and say to yourself “When I wake up I will be faster better stronger.”

10 when I wake I will be faster better stronger. 9 when I wake I will be faster better stronger….3 I am faster better stronger…1 I am faster better stronger.

Take a deep breath and open your eyes.

I have many more exercises especially ones that help center around pain. I will post them later.

My Best Advice on Getting the Best Quality of Life with a Chronic Illness

Long story short, this is how I’ve stayed sane, healthy, and am coping with copious amounts of pain.

1.First I’ve memorized this poem/saying and say it to myself a hundred times a day:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the thing I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”

2. I stretch every single day, no matter what.  Whether you feel like crap, or your body is going to break; or you have twenty places to be at one time. First things first. You stop, and get your stretch on. Stretching for people with Dysautonomia, MS, Parkinson’s, or people who just get leg cramps is extremely important. I can tell a huge difference between my days I stretch and those I don’t. I stretch consistently throughout the day. In the morning when I first wake up I go through each position. Then throughout the day when I get a moment to myself I do quick little stretches as much as possible.  My main stretches all come from this fabulous book called (bellow)

Stretching and Toning by Melissa Cosby

I love it because it’s spiral so it lays flat. It has instructions for several fitness levels so if my legs just won’t move like they should one day I can revert back to beginners and on my good days I can go to Advanced. I’m forgetful and ADD so I love that it goes into detail for each stretch but then in the back there’s a page that sums them all up. This way you can go back and make sure you haven’t forgotten how to do the stretches correctly and make sure you haven’t formed bad habits.

3.Exercise daily, no matter what. I see those eyes rolling. I know this is a hard one but here’s the thing. Even people with the most limited movements can find an exercise for them. For years I was told not to exercise because I would pass out. Then I was told to do it for three min at a time. And here’s what I’ve found. There’s this hilarious old lady that comes on PBS every morning at 9:00. She sits in her chair and exercises. Sure you feel dumber then a playboy playmate at a Mensa conference but it does the trick. Also I have this awesome machine. It’s like a bike but you can stay on your couch and pedal, and then you can lift it up on your table and work on your arms. It’s fantastic.

 

I found mine at Walmart.com

4. I’m now a yogi. I do Yin Yoga almost daily. I should do it every day several times a day, but I don’t.  Don’t give me that look! I know it may sound crazy but if you really give into it and your body can heal itself between bad days. It’s amazing! Plus for the hours right after each session you’ll be standing up straighter then the Eiffel tower! Here are my favorite videos:

Yes I know they seem stoned...but doesn't that make it more fun?!

5. Learn to meditate. There are hundreds of methods out there, find one that’s right for you. I have a few favorites look HERE

6. On your bad days get out of bed! Even if you can’t move, your joints are killing you, and each vertebra of your spine screams out in a pop as you move upward. You got to continue to move your location. For instance, in the morning, move from your bed, to the couch. If you need to keep your favorite pillow and blanket, but just make sure you get out of bed. Then a few hours later move from the upstairs tv room, to the family room. It’s amazing how much better you’ll feel on those bad days if you push yourself to change your surroundings even if it is just from one room to another.

7. Try to get your mind off your pain while excersizing and getting ready. The reason why it is so hard to be motivated in the morning is you are dreading that pain. So instead of watching your favorite tv show while on your butt at night. TVo it or watch it on hulu as you are getting ready for the day and doing your stretches. I always have whatever show I love on while I stretch and I watch my horrible guilty pleasure, TMZ (you can get the episodes on their website) while I do my hair/makeup/and get dressed. It distracts me from how much it hurts to do those tasks.

8. Find your outlet. You have to find things you can do every day besides watching tv, no matter how you are feeling. Make sure these are things you love to do and make you happy. Here are some of mine:

• My music. It’s amazing how much music can uplift you and get you motivated. On days I don’t think I can do my stretches or go on a walk my music usually does the trick to at least get me motivated to walk to the mailbox and back!
• My “Happy journal.” I keep a journal of things that makes me happy. It’s an 8x8 scrapbook of random things that make me smile.  Scrap-booking and just looking at my scrapbooks can put me in a great place. If you don’t have the money or movement in your hands to scrapbook an easier and cheaper way to go is Costco’s online photo books. There are other websites that do great scrapbook pages but Costco’s photo books and scrap-booking pages come out to costing less than if you were to print out each of the pictures individually.
• Then I keep a normal everyday journal but I do more doodling then writing.
•  I send postcards to my friends. Letter writing is such an important lost art I think. So I write letters and postcards. It’s also a good practice to keep you grateful. Writing thank you notes and love notes to your friends and family really helps you focus on why you should keep fighting through the pain.
• On my good days I do photography so that on my bad days I can sit in bed or on the couch and have fun photoshopping them.
• I’m not a big fan of facebook, but I’m obsessed with this website called polyvore.com. It’s so fun! Basically you make little fashion sets. Sounds stupid I know but it’s my guilty pleasure.
• Some other Ideas are reading, blogging, painting, crochet or needle point, puzzles, brainteasers, soduku, playing card/dice/domino games with family or friends, cook, etc.

9. Get out and volunteer. As of right now I can’t work. My days are too sporadic and unpredictable so there’s no way I can hold a steady job. So I volunteer at a Women’s shelter a couple days a week for a few hours, and thankfully they are flexible when I have bad days. It’s perfect because for the most part I sit, but I’m still challenged to get up and help out the girls. Some days I’m on my feet the whole time. It’s hard but it’s good to push myself. Everyone there knows of my limits so if I say “that’s too much” it’s no problem. And since it’s volunteer work they are just grateful I’m there no matter what. I’m sure retirement homes, shelters, schools, and programs for persons with disabilities would be more than happy to have you.

10. If you know you can find a job that fits with your body and abilities go for it.Look for jobs you normally wouldn't, telephone operator, florist, receptionist. Even if you are worried that they will be put off by your illness. Even if they are at least you tried, but I think you would be surprised by how understanding some employers can be. 

11. My next piece of advice may turn you off but it’s really important you take it. Get yourself a councilor/therapist/shrink!  I will go into the importance of one in a later post, but for now look for  someone who specializes in chronic illness or disease. My therapist isn’t there just to listen to my problems, but teaches me ways  and gives ideas to improve on my quality of life. It is also very, very important that you have someone unbiased who you can really confide in when you have an illness, because they understand all 360 degrees of what it’s like to have an illness, be a caregiver to someone who has an illness and be a provider or physician to someone with an illness.  It may take trying out a couple of specialists to find one who fits your personality and what you are looking for but once you find it they can really be a great asset in your life.

If you can’t tell, I love my therapist She’s fun and sassy and reminds me of a high school guidance counselor. Her purpose is to make me realize if my health isn’t going to change then I have to. She gives me ideas on how to improve my life. I’ll let you in on a secret; most of the ideas on this list were hers.

Which leads to my next word of advice...

12. Read this book:

I have read my share of self-help books, to spiritual books, trying to find the best way to edify myself. Other than the Holy Scriptures I can one hundred percent say, for me this is the best book for self-edification.

It’s geared for people with high anxiety, but it works with people with illness too. For instance it teaches you to take those bad thoughts you have about yourself and turn them from a feeling into an object that you can analyze. In doing this you realize what a silly thought, why am I thinking that. And then you can take your forefinger and thumb and flick them away. I now view my pain this way. I view it as an object instead of a feeling and though it’s not so easy to flick it away, pain doesn’t have the power over me that it used to.

It also teaches you meditation. Something I have been practicing for a while and found extremely important in my quality of life. There are some odd meditation exercises in here but just do the ones you find are good for you.  I will also do a post on my favorite forms of meditation, so look for that.

I’ll be honest It’s a heavy read, and you’ll want to fish through it fast. The first five or so chapters are okay to scan through just as long as you feel like you are getting a grasp of what he’s saying because he is laying a foundation, but it’s really important to take your time on the rest of the book.

Don’t be afraid to redesign the little assignments he gives you to fit your situation.

13. Count and organize your spoons. AKA Energy I will go in a later post, but basically don’t over do it. If you feel good one day don’t freak out and run a marathon. Otherwise you’ll crash the rest of the week. Plan out your week and save energy for tomorrow.

14. Last but not least. Confide in a friend. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help.

I live with my parents and they know what I go through because they see it firsthand every day. However my brother, his family and my extended family not to mention my friends in the past were kept in the dark.

It’s important to open up to them so they know the details of what you are going through. I hadn't really told my grandparents exactly how bad things had gotten, and they got a rude awakening when I was left needing their assistance to help me to the bathroom. These two were in their late seventies and had to basically carry me to the bathroom because I couldn't move the right side of my body.  I’ll spare you the rest of the details but it’s one of my more awful memories. If I had been honest with them and had a conversation on how they could help me I don’t think it would have really traumatized me as much.

I usually don’t talk about my illness with my friends much either, it just doesn't come up. I won’t let it. Even if I’m on the couch slumped over in pain we talk about anything else.

However, I've learned I need to give up my pride every now and then and talk about it. Usually we laugh about the silly things that happen because I can’t make it to the bathroom in time or fall over because my legs give out or how I threw up on my dad in the Mexican restaurant parking lot. But we laugh about it because that’s how we have decided to view it. Not as sad events, but we force ourselves to see the humor in it.  So instead of, “oh (frown) It’s so sad you peed your pants, and then your dog peed on you.”  (Tear.) It’s “Oh my gosh!  That is so freaking funny I’m going to pee my pants right now thinking about it!” (Hyperventilating)

Today I feel Like a Ninja...

Today I feel like a NINJA.

"Why" you ask?

I dunno...I just wanna kick some butt!

...I'm thinkin this may be why:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83EEIQFNedc&feature=related

The Sense of the Unstressed

The fantastic fortitude of a positive attitude still astounds me. I absolutely love it. The mind is so intensely powerful that it’s no surprise that we know really nothing of it and never will. Many believe that those with a sudden onset of a chronic illness had a trigger aka, trauma in their life which exasperated what was silently waiting to take over.

I completely agree. I’m certain I was born with this illness; the first signs were shown when I was in fourth grade, continued very silently through my adolescence and only really showed through exercise or long days sitting in the classroom. The first hit that took place that let those close to me know something was wrong was when I was twelve after several stressors. It was slight but very present. It didn’t start getting annoying and disruptive until I was a jr in high school, and didn’t show it’s dragon like face until after I graduated and I had two sudden traumas that occurred one after another. Not only my mind and mental state was in shock, my body went through a shock and caused the genetic disease waiting inside me to crawl out and burn throughout my body. Studies back me up on this state of thought, thousands of patients will attest that they too had a trauma that brought it out.

So if a sudden trauma could cause a fault in your system causing a chronic illness to peek it only makes sense that meditation, stress reduction and positive attitude will help. maybe not cure, but calm the disease. All the more reasons to do what you love, cut out the people and subjects that are toxic from your life, and live hard while parting like a rockstar.

The Hard Workin Man

Right now i'm visiting my brother, him and my dad are getting ready to lay some gravel in the front yard. My brother has been complaining about his back because he messed it up snowboarding a couple of years ago. I've found myself wanting to go out and help, but i know the movement of bending over to sweep up the dirt and then up to place it in the wheelbarrow would cause my P.O.T.s to act up sending me face down in the dirt. And although the idea of a mud bath sounds fun right now i don't think it's for the best.
I would have never thought I'd miss manual labor as much as i do. I've always enjoyed mowing the law and still do it every now and then but it causes a bad reaction and i can surely expect an event that night.
I grew up in a fairly small town, pewney compared to the major cities, my best friends all had ranches and corrals. I'd go out and help with gathering up the hay, bringing in the horses, fix fences, everything you'd see in a good cowboy movie.
There's just something inspiring about hard work. I love it. I love that feeling of completing a task and that pride sweeping over you. It bugs me that the only thing i make with my hands now days is girly woosie needle point and birdhouses.
It's my goal to get back to doing as much as I can, I walk a little more each day, and push myself in the small things more and more to help my endurance grow. It'll get there. I've been teaching myself how to endure the pain in my heart. Every time it comes on i just take a deep breath and i guess, meditate, almost go into myself and tell my brain i can take it, it's not as bad as it seems and with my mind try to psyche myself out into thinking I'm fine.
At this point it only works like 30% of the time, but I'm expecting it to get better.